the problem will be first, then Janet's advice

me and my friend always try making new friends we say hit to people and talk to different cliques. So when we said hello to these 2 boys the other day. What my friend didnt know is that i had a big crush on one of them for ages. i have told her in a note but the problem is one of my other friends stole it and is telling EVERYONE. He doesnt know though but i am scared that he will and wont feel the same way back. What should i do?
-in love
Dear In love, First of all, you should be more careful about notes. Try what my friends and I do, we make up nicknames for the people. That way only you and your friend know who you are talking about. (See my friends and I are really paranoid about people knowing our secrets and it will help big time). Trust me. Second, talk to you friend who took the note.Tell them that you don't appreicate them taking the note. Especially since it was met for someone else and not them. Then, tell them you don't want him or anyone else to know. So it would be really great if they could just return the note back and not tell him. Hopefully they are nice enough to do this for you. Good luck!

My best friend was p-oed one day and wouldn't tell me why, it really made me mad because i tell her everything and she didn't tell me what was wrong. should i be mad, or just give her space?
-hurting
Dear hurting you should give your friend space. they might not have been ready to tell you yet. Thats all

Me and my friend like the same boy. She doesnt know this though. I just started a new school and she has liked him for ages. Thats the problem. She is my best friend and i really dont want to tell her as it will just make the situation worse. But i dont know how long i can keep it inside as i havent told anyone. The whole situation is sorta making me depressed.
-OOPs i got a crush
Dear OOPS i got a crush, Well, you should tell her. I know there's no easy way to say it. Yet, she should know. My friend had liked the same guy I did. There was no problem between us. Just give it a try. Hopefully she'll handle it in a good way.

Well this one guy is like a good friend of mine and I kinda of like him though... he seems like he could like me back but I am REALLY not sure... he isnt the cutest guy in the world but he is sweet and really fun to be with what should I do?
-unsure
Dear unsure, I'm kinda going through the same problem. If you like him then go for it. It's personality that counts.

well my ex was planning on getting with my best friend. i told her i was fine with it and everything and i am. well he moved to the other side of the country (the reason we broke up) and hes finally coming back. well he was going to get with my best frind now but he decided he wanted to get with me first. I still do like him and my friend said it owuld be fine since she doesnt want to be with him anyways. Well i know i can and everything will be fine but i can't help but feel bad because my ex is like in love with her but just wants to get with me.
-Desperate
Dear Desperate, well, my advice to you is..to not get back with him. i know you like him a lot and evrything. the thing is, ur ex likes your best friend. It wouldn't be right for you to get back with him. You'll know in your heart that it's wrong to be back with him. He likes your friend, so let him be with you friend. It will be painful to see them together, but it'll make both of them happy. You know you'll feel much better about it later on. Give it time and you'll find someone who wants only you and feel only right to be with you.


well me and this kid bobby have been best friends forever. well we have always kind of likes eachother but nothing ever happened. Well a year ago he was going to ask me out, but he didn't know what I would say so he didn't. Then about a month later he was going to ask me again because i told him i would have said yes, but he had a girlfriend. well now a year later, we were talking and i asked him if he liked be (because is friends have told me he did) and well he said yea and asked me the same thing well i said kinda even though i really do. He still has the same girlfriend but his freinds said they dont think its going to last much longer. Im supposed ot be going to a "party" and he was like ill go with you. and he knows what kind of "party" it is and he said it like wice and i keep saying to him, you have a girlfriend. but he doesnt seem to care. He isnt the guy to ever cheat on someone so i know he wouldnt do that. But he is just confusing me so much when he acts like this.
-confused
Dear confused, You and Bobby seem to like each other a lot, but somehow the universe isn't kind. There are obstacles everytime you two try and get together. It looks like Bobby knows you like him and you know he definitely likes you. He may just still be with his girlfriend because he's unsure that you want to be with him or not. He maybe just feeling as confused as you are. Trust me, most guys have no clue and he's probably feeling a bit confused, too. You should sit him down and talk to him. Ask him if he wants to still be with his girlfriend. Tell him how you feel. Ask how he feels, an maybe tell him I want to go out with you. But I don't know if you feel the same. I have another feeling too..You two are best friends since forever. This thought probably more likely than once has come across your mind, "you don't want to ruin a good friendship." It's probably crossed his mind too. That could be another reason why he hasn't really asked you out.


My ex-boyfriend Robert is SUPER POPULAR at my school and so was I. He broke up with me because no one was talking to him anymore (his friends hate me) and he likes another girl. He is REALLY REALLY nice but when he broke up with me, he seemed different. I can't get over this and I don't think he'll get out of my mind. What do I do to get over it?
-Lonely girl in a lonely world
Dear Lonely Girl in a Lonely World, first of all, i'm guessing that since you're both popular. Not many people approach him like they used to before you both went out. You're popular and who wants to talk to the most popular girl's boyfriend. right? Well, he likes someone and you can't get him out of your mind. And you say he seems different to you? Maybe, he's just trying to be different from before because he thinks no one wanted to talk to him because of the way he acted? I can sit here and give you advice. We'll never figure it out...The best bet is to talk to him. See why he's acting the way he is. If you understand why, then maybe you'll get over it. To get over it..I don't think you will soon, but later on you will. You just broke up with him and you can't except to be over him like this. It takes time and only you know how to get over him. Listen to what your heart and mind is saying. I really hope this helps.


Ok so this guy asked me if i like him and i said sorta even though i really do. I am not sure if i should ask him out or what. i asked my friend to ask him if he likes me on msn but he wen offline :( and i think he likes one of the popular girls at school. Should i ask him out?
-confused girl in her own world
well, if he asked u if u like him. then he does care, so you should just tell him. yes i do. maybe he logged off when your friend asked because he didn't want you to know that he feels the same way. just talk to him first and see. don't ask him out before you know his feelings, because that could make things awkward between you two. also, do you see any possible signs that he might be interested in you? keep me posted. im here to help.